Who has the power??

I guess I've always seen my mom as the one who has the power. Yes, people say the man of the house is supposed to have the power, but for a long time now, I've always gone to my mom. It's been a long time since I've had a good relationship with my dad, so for the past few years I haven't gone to him to ask him to do something. I have always gone to my mom for as long as I can remember. I knew most of the time what her answer would be if I wanted to do something. I think I've seen her with the power because she was the one who has always had a steady job, paid all the bills, and took care of us as a family. My dad has had soo many jobs in my life that I can't even count them. For the past year and a half or so when he was sneaking around, he didn't really have any power because he seemed to never be home. I never went to him to ask if I could do something if my mom wasn't home, I just did it.

I think it's great that every family is different when it comes to finding a way to manage power, but I think it needs to be split evenly, and not have one person be in complete power.