I don't know if after thirty years of marriage if I have become a stone-Waller or a verbal bomber. Many of us who have been married would even think of airing the dirty laundry that we produce in our marriages; my parent made it look as if marriage had no problems at all.
therefor as a husband I had to learn how to defend and process without any knowledge how to make my love relationship work, even if I did not get what I wanted. My brothers and sisters look at me with contempt because I am passive to my wife right; well they (my bro. and sis.) have all been in several marriages but me only one, when I stone wall I go to the garage and work on a project and laugh and giggle about what my wife and I disagreed about; I have been caught a few times, and when I do get caught I always throw that verbal bomb like "your crazy" or "you must think I am stooped", my wife feels some guilt and accept some responsibility and I later apologize for making her feel sad, then we go to dinner at a nice restaurant or we do something we can not afford and were back to where we were, OH! except the love-making part in between.
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