Wednesday, February 4, 2009
So some of my close friends are dating and I had never really understood some of the things that went on in their relationship when they would come to me. I was sitting in class the other day and it just hit me, it's because of their families. I didn't realize that the way you were treated within the first 2 years of your life basically helps to shape the person you are today. I hadn't really thought about the amount of love and affection in a family could really affect an individual later on in life. Some of the issues in their relationship deal with the amount of love and affection that is expressed in one family and really not there at all in the other family. One of them wonders why the other doesn't express their feelings towards the other as easy as they do, but in reality it is because their family never showed them how to while growing up. One of them seems to have no idea what they are doing sometimes and almost seem socially/relationship awkward but their parents never really expressed a healthy relationship in front of their kids so the kids aren't really sure of what a good relationship looks like. I think this class is so interesting because I feel like all of those questions I have wondered all my life about why this person does this or why don't they do that...it really is because of a heavy impact of their family. I love learning all of these new things.
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I found it so interesting when we were talking about relationships in class. I really does make a difference of the affection you recieved as a child. It is interesting how the child usually models the parent. It made me think about what is important in my life. It is surprising the relationships that come out of life. People that you would never expect it create a very positive relationship. It was also interesting to actually see how different systems effected your life. I grew up in a very small town, so when something happened to one person, it seemed to effect everyone because everyone would step in. When we were talking about our different systems, such as your micro system and etc. This really made me think how it pertained to my life and everything and everyone that effects my life. The last point that I really pulled out of class was the structure of arguments. It is interesting how important to see how an argument goes down. When I first heard that content was not important, I thought that was very strange. After watching the clip from "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" I understood it more. Then I paid close attention to when one of my roommates and I had a fight. Sure enought we always had the same structure. We yell, then each state our sides. After that we separate as if we can not stand each other. After about 20 minutes at the most we make up and explain why we felt the way we did.
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