I've been thinking about this question for awhile now....
Recently, my dad told us he cheated on my mom, and he is now living with his girlfriend, and my parents are getting a divorce. I always thought I would be one of the few people in the world to have a normal family, with 2 parents, a sibling, and pets. I lived 18 years of the "perfect life" per say. I never thought that it would happen to me, but it has which makes me wonder: what is a family?
Is it when you have a mom, dad, and sibling in a 2-story house with a dog? Is it when you have only one parent and live in an apartment? Is it when you are adopted and taken into a loving home where you find out people actually do care for you?
There are so many different ways to describe a family these days. And I've come to the conclusion that my idea of a family now is completely different from what I thought of a family growing up. I don't mind just having a mom and brother and our pets. I could care less if my dad is in my life. Of course I wonder, who is going to walk me down the isle when I get married, but that is just something I will have to worry about when the time comes.
Family to me is having people who support you no matter what happens, and for me right now that is my mom and brother.
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I completly agree with Laura on this topic of what is family. People who support you is how to really define family.
I really enjoyed the class peroid we talked about, "what is a family." I was really interested to hear what everyone came up with. With all the different anwsers there seemed to be the common theme of support and love.
It was really interesting to hear what people were saying and relate it to my life. When people speak of their families most of the time they are talking about the nuclear family: mom, dad and kids. My preception of my family is a little different. Half my life I lived with my nuclear family and the other half I have lived with my aunt and uncle. No matter what I have always been with people who love and support me but it has been interesting to compare the two experiences. When living with my extended family it was an interesting change. They already have three kids of their own so I didn't feel like part of the family. At some point I realized that I didn't even need to be blood related, (even though I was) family is who is there for you by choice. This may not be the legal definition but it is the one that fits my family best.
A family is whatever you want it to be. Wherever you feel at home that is where your family is. It's whomever or whatever it has to be. Family and the things that happen to your family are not always good but nonetheless it is still family. Our book tries to gives us a universal definition for the word family but really its a personal word and therefore needs a personal definition. So you decide...who is your famile?
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